Skip to main content

The Abuse We Overlook

Hello,Dia mi!

I trust that you have been staying marvelous. I also hope that you're maintaining positivity in these trying times. It's turning out to be a full time job.

On a happier note,have I mentioned how much I missed our conversations? I'm definite that you feel the same too. A lot of things have been running through my mind lately and I decided to share one of them with you.

Many of us know that physical abuse/domestic violence is a horrible incident. We dread it and make sure the perpetrator gets punished. However,there is another kind of abuse we should be validating as much as physical abuse.

Emotional abuse is when a person deliberately manipulates the emotions of other people to make them feel low and unworthy. Emotional abuse happens everywhere:from our houses,to religious houses,schools and even workplaces. There are various kinds of emotional abuse and each one of them has very devastating effects.

The most surprising thing is that we emotionally abuse ourselves too. Yes,you heard that right!. We allow negativity to overwhelm us and we look down on ourselves. We make ourselves believe that we can never be good enough to achieve a particular thing.

Have you ever wondered why some children have a low self esteem? Some statistics have shown that some children are timid due to the emotional abuse from their parents. Words like" You're a failure", "I regret that I gave birth to you" , "Can't you be like(Insert any name)" can greatly affect the mental health of children. This emotional abuse has also led to symptoms like shyness,nail biting,extreme anger at everything and other similar symptoms.

As I mentioned earlier,emotional abuse also happens in other places. For some people,their friends emotionally abuse them and underrate their achievements. Such friends make you feel like you should worship them. Adults also face emotional abuse in their work place.

This shows that emotional abuse can come from anyone and anywhere. Some individuals have no clue that they emotionally abuse others because they see what they do as a norm. Therefore,we have to look out for signs of emotional abuse in our actions and other people's actions.

We should also learn to be kind to others. Being kind to someone who has had a bad day goes a long way. Learn to celebrate your small wins and appreciate the people around you. Correct people in a constructive way to maintain their positivity level.

What would you be doing in the next few days to reduce emotional abuse? Let me know in the comments section. Don't forget to stay mentally healthy too.

With love,
Peperempe.

Comments

  1. Emotional abuse could be verbal too. Hearing words like "can't you be like **** " could damage a person emotionally. Or "you're fat and ugly " we should be careful with our words
    It can also be from within. The fear of failure and refusal to appreciate and love one's self could contribute to it. It can cause high levels of anxiety and depression.
    If we learn to love ourselves, it would do great good to us emotionally.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Emotional abuse is one kind of abuse that a lot of people go through but it is rarely discussed. Thank you for this piece on it.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Are You A Failure? (Pt 2)

It's a beautiful evening, Dia Mi! Everywhere is quiet and I can see the setting sun from far away. Before you say I sound like a poet, I just wish you could view this beauty with me😊. How have you been faring these days? I hope you aren't letting life get you down. I understand life can be quite frustrating, so I decided to have a conversation with you today! I remember poking you in the ribs about all the reasons you fail. However, I'm not going to apologise but I'm going to repeat it with all boldness. You probably contributed to that failed project or lost opportunity. But it's beautiful to know you can always try again, Dia Mi. So, I decided to give you some realistic tips on how to overcome failure. They're simple, straightforward and help you to see the way forward. I'm diving in right away. 1.Face Failure: You failed again, and so what? Who says you can't try again? You definitely can; you only need to be upfront about why you failed. Search deep...

Are You A Failure?

Hello, Dia mi😊! It has been a long week over here and I'm genuinely excited to be having this conversation with you today. Did your week go well? Dia mi, when last did you fail? Do you think you're a failure? Before you answer these questions, I want you to take a deep breath and think about all those past mistakes carefully. I'm not even kidding. How can you appreciate success if you never fail? How can you be relevant if you never fail? If you think this is some motivational speech, you're wrong.  I have thought about it over and over again. Why did I fail at this project? Why did I have bad grades in this course? Why did I give up halfway on that dream? Does this mean I'm a failure? If this sounds like you, those failures didn't happen by chance. It was a result of the actions you took or failed to take as you were aiming for that goal. It could have been any of these: 1. Your Self-discipline: Let's be honest, self discipline is a problem most of us face...

Love Is Not Enough

Hello,Dia mi! I trust that you are having a lovely day. I also hope that you have been spreading love and kindness everywhere. It is a blessing to put a smile on someone's face❤. I'm going to talk about important factors that make or mar relationships,whether romantic or not.All our life,we've always heard how one day,we'll fall in love and have a happy ever after with that special person. You've been lied to terribly. It never works this way. I guess this was passed around to shield us from the shocking reality. The shocking reality is that love is never ever enough!. Sounds unbelievable,right? I understand you,trust me. Have you ever wondered what holds the strong relationships we see around?. Dia mi,a lot of things come in other than love. Here's why some relationships last longer than others do. Commitment: This can never be underrated,or is it overrated? What I'm saying is you have to make up your mind to give time to your relationships. You have to con...